Dating outside the race...

[rangerider1]

if people could stop being so fickle minded,and study jesus christ the man,instead of jesus christ the god of their creation,as i have.they will find that jesus was a man not unlike martin luther king.he was the martin luther king of his time.and jesus died for what he did.not for what someone else did.he was murderd by his government for his opposition to his government,and his religis beliefs.he fought for the opressed people of his time.his death had nothing to do with any other people.except the people that lived then.and by the way.i was born and raised christian.but,to educate yourself about facts,instead of blindly following what someone tells them.then they would stop all of this santa claus mess.jesus has about as much chance of being a god as santa claus have getting down everybodys chimney at the same time in one night.

[rangerider1]

as i said.i was born,and raised christian.but,i can't think that simple anymore.when i witness the real god doing her work.to believe,something in the shape and form of man can do anything that comes close to what mother earth does is just blindly believeing stuff that they need to believe.everything on earth came from earth,and in our ends we ,and everything else will go back to her.and that is as far as we're going.not up in the sky or into some firey hell.people has this great need to make our own gods.because the're afraid to live,without one.note:all of their gods are in human form.thats no coincidence.thats been carefully constructed for more than 2000years.religion is a tool.a useful one i might add.a sychological tool no more or less.its cheaper than paying somebody 150,to 200 hundred bucks to lay on their couch!i just can't beleive things that can't be proven,wont be proven,and will never be proven,simply because it is not fact.facts can be proven.people don't seem to realize,that you can believe a lie.but,that doesn't make it a fact,because,alot of people beleive something.the true producer of all life,the maker of all miracles,she sustians all life,she makes the impossible,possible.to think that some guy made this.this is the one god that man can't make.they killed jesus,[man did],but,he can't kill mother earth,because,you can't kill a god.they don't die.that should tell you something.look at what will happen if we worshipped the real god.we would have clean air to breath,clean grounds cities,streets,more beautiful veggetations,brighter sun,brighter moon,cleaner waters,our animals wouldn't be dissapearing,we would be heathier,we'd live longer.etc,etc,etc, please excuse typos and misspellings.

PS.oh! and i hope no one says to me.well,who does he thinks made all of this.please.the earth made herself.thats what a god can do.it took her billions of years to make herself,but, ooh, look what she made.and people are so simple to believe that a man,a human being,can make this in just six days.please!if you believe that. i've got a toenail i'll sell you for a million bucks.its magic.

[spiritshele]

.nice i did'nt read the whole thing but nice !

[rangerider1]

`thanks man.i'm glad you think so.i apreciate your comment.

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1whitekitten wrote: Hello everyone I am new and so looking for insight.....
Why do African American Women so hate the thought of White Women with a Black Man...and yet a Black Woman with a White Man is OK..??

Coming from a Multi Cultural family I am white but was brought up by a Bengali (black) stepmother..and amongst Bengali people....
I have never felt comfortable with caucasian men.....and in Aus there were no other options open to me....and so after divorcing my husband
(white) I have been alone....

I am considering re-locating to the USA where I hope my options will be more open, however feel that I may just be swapping one form of Racial prejudice for another.....


I really look forward to any replies.....
Peace and Love People... Quote:

As a Black man, I have dated outside of my race. The stares I got in public were something else. I thought love was supposed to bridge this gap. I think it has something to do with the fact that there are so many eligible Black man in jail ,on probation and other things bad. There is also a serious shortage of open mindedness among our peers. They honestly feel that Black men should stay within their own race. I have seen men treat our sisters like dirt and that is scary. I have learned through my military background and other experiences that people will have their own opinions and nothing much anyone can do will ever change them. I just go with the way my heart feels no matter who it may be. My own personal opinions may open me up for attacks, but I believe you should stand your ground because it is your right as part of freedom of speech. Just know and remember that here is one who is not going to attack you.

[cruisin]

You have provided such a silly reason for dating white men. Why must we include other people in our perverse desires to be cruel. Why should we use other people and be insensitive to their feelings to prove a point, to no one in particular. The problem is with you my sister. You will not be happy with anyone until you become comfortable and accepting of who you are, and understand that you are always a work in progress. Continue to strive to become a better you. Continue to strive to love others and yourself.
akissi wrote: Kitty,

I am a African American Female who has dated periodically White men exclusively.

Why? Perhaps it was my way of getting back at all of the Black men who chose to date white women.

I have to agree with Tyler Perry, any Black man who can not find a beautiful intelligent BLACK woman just hasn't looked hard enough!We're out here!!!!!

No, I don't /didn't think it was right for me to be on a white man's arm or in his bed. But it gave me the opportunity to understand what Black men go through in making their choice.

White women, to some Black men are held in high esteem simply because they were withheld from them. Anything that you have never had becomes valuable....

While White men have Black women for years, it seems today that when that white man chooses finally to stop raping the Black Woman behind closed doors and actually marry her that she feels that she has been honored withinn some sick twisted logic.

It is wrong!

It's like a plant deciding that it wants to be an animal. But if we didn't have plants the whole ecosystem would be screwed up.

Now that I am an adult, I realize that we have to become strong in our own RAces, in order to do our job in the social ecosystem. Strong Black families produce children with strong identities. Yes, I agree with the Aryans on this point. The same goes for a strong White family!

When we become strong in our own individuality, we become a valuable resource for all of mankind.

We can still love one another without clinbing in the wrong "bed"!!!lol

We can ALL still get along without creating children of mixed heritage, who have no clue as to who they are!

We were ALL created EQUAL and have an equally important job to do. We need to stop messing that up!

"I hope you dance!"

[cruisin]

I have dated outside of my race. I do not believe that finding true love should be limited to the color of someone's skin. However, I must admit that in my experience, there is no other woman on the planet who understands black men better than a black woman. For that reason, I am seeking a black woman to spend the rest of my life with. I will remain open to all women, but black women have fulfilled my needs much better than any other woman that I've dated.


rangerider1 wrote: `thanks man.i'm glad you think so.i apreciate your comment.



Cruisin

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`what is outside of your race......don't know about you but i'm of the human race and i have always dated humans.....lol.....color of the skin that's all it is....

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`oh yeah and baby girl.....next time put "some african american women" in front of what you are about to say......cause i couldn't care less who you date as long as it's not my man.....lol.......come on girl and have a ball

[jimydancer]

I have nothing against folk dating outside the race and this my first post so if I dont do it right I dont have my wings yet.

It does not matter if one is black, white, brown etc. the moment he/she decides that they want to date a specific race of people and not an individual the die is cast. We should be looking for people with qualities that we want in a partnership, relationship or friends the rest is actually a form of racism and to the self as well as those we seek out in the name of race...............

The sung of jimydancer

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.It shouldn't matter what race/ethnicity people belong to. I never understood why people make such a big deal about people dating outside of their own. Especially blacks, and whites.

They say you can't help you who fall in love with. There just might be some truth to that. Bottom line, people should just enjoy being with the person they are with.

[ladyengineer]

Hello All,
This is my first day on this site and I must say that despite the controversy everyone here handled the discussion with reserve, respect and even strong disagreements were not unpleasant. I commend you all because it appears as a human race we have grown enough to even have this conversation. As an outside observer I saw many differing opinions that were all respectworthy. I have my own as well but I'm inclined to go with the 'human race' I have men in my family who only date or marry white women and some who refuse to date anyone but a sister. My family is composed of Blacks, American Indian, Cuban, Iranian, Irish, Puerto Rican, Caucasian, brown eyed, blue eyed, hazel eyed, Baptist , Catholic, Buddhist, Muslim, light skinned, dark skinned. Heck who has time to figure out where the lines get muddy and who is what? The word 'melting pot' has never been more true at any time in history. I'm not going to hate my family because their children are 1/2, 1/4, 1/8. 1/16 or 1/32 white. My granddaughter has brown hair and blue eyes her mother is as dark as Cicely Tyson. Why get bothered over black men dating white women or vice versa. One thing I noticed is that usually the person they are with is NOT someone I would ever want to date anyway? And if they did leave that person and date someone of their own race what are the chances it would be me? If its another black woman then am I not still in the same situation. How many good brothers have a black woman turned down, cheated on or mistreated? (Women of other races too, now, not just black women) I know I have turned down some brothers who did not appeal to me but they are dating black women. If you just want to be with a black man then pick one, there is one that will date you. True, some black men, like some of those in my family only date white women, but there is no love lost over them. And my interracial inlaws are actually nice people. No one in the family even sees their color anymore. They are just family. Its an illusion.

As for religion, I (and my children) are the only Buddhist amongst the religious preferences in our family. One family member told me I need to convert to thier religion to save my eternal soul. I have never been happier with my religion at anytime in my life and I am just as righteous, caring and sincere as any 'true' (if there is such a thing since we are all humans) Christian, Muslim, Jew or any other faith. Lets be real and as Morgan Freeman said "Get busy living or get busy dying". Life is much too short.

For anyone under the illusion that they are better or inferior to anyone else, that is all it is too... an illusion. Remember some people go into these forums just to get people riled up, they get mixed in with people who are sincere and the games begin. Life is too short.
BTW, I do adore black men and I only need that one complement. Life goes on. I Love you All.
Peace and blessings, F

[letmeburman10]

Myself personally I wuld have no problem dating outside my race... But My experienced is that only been with black women all my life n dats what I prefer.. But Im still open minded about venturing out ... Love has no color !! iz a True Statement , The ones who think not r da closed minded ones .. But 4 me Black iz where its At Baby!!!!

[battle (deleted)]

I hear scientists just found planet Kepler-22b and believe it could support life. Think a Keplerian girl would like dinner in the space station under the light of the stars? Oh, wait, we're talking about humans dating humans ....

Why doesn't the poll work!

There will always be those that despise dating out of their skin color boundaries, those that see deeper than the skin, and those that pursue it just because of skin color.

If we focused on enjoying the company of those that bring positivity to our worlds, strength to our challenges, and smiles to our faces, and stopped seeing the accident of birth that is color ..... well, as naive as it sounds we'd all be better off.

Here, think/feel with me a second - you're coming out of surgery that will give your eyesight back. The person that you'd fallen for, and are happy with is there in the room. As your eyes focus, you see them next to you ..... OMG, they're White / Black / Short / Tall / Skinny / Fat / not Brad, Beyonce, Angelina, or Tyrese ! ....

Yes, you know where I'm going. Simplistic? sure .... But truly, you wouldn't dump this person (or would you?) now. So why start out eliminating most of the world because of things that have nada to do with the person and how the two of you might click?

-Nuff said, I'm new and couldn't resist replying....

Oh, White Kitten, you're a brave one for asking so long ago. I hope your move worked out for you, and you found your tiger no matter what color b'day suit he wears!
And MartinNative, thanks for the perspective about your people. Stay strong, stay proud.

[richelle45]

the way in which i was raise color never played apart in my family's everyday life.we all know we are different ppl that's how GOD wanted it to be.i have no problem with a white woman being with a black man or a black man being with a white woman .just make sure if your a black man you get with a nice looking woman i think it's a disgrace to be with anyone that looks like a hot damn mess just triffling looking.be with someone you don't mind introducing to your friends or family color doesn't matter ,but apperance is everything.